Safe Sex Tips

Since the divorce, I use a vibrator to satisfy myself. Now, after getting married again, I'm so hard to reach climax. How can I be feeling aroused by direct touch, my husband is?" (Letter from Icha, not her real name)

According to Lou Paget, sex expert who is also the author of How to Be a Great Lover and Orgasms, if you just rely on a vibrator to give intense sensation in the body, the more difficult you "wake up" by the touch of a finger or your partner's tongue. Husband would be difficult to compete with a vibrator which is your mainstay.

"You should start by reducing the use of vibrators," suggests Paget. "Next, begin to explore yourself with your fingers. You must know what feels good to you so you can guide the couple did the same thing to you," he added.

If you are comfortable doing it, then Paget suggested that further demonstrate to your husband about how to touch you like, or you can point fingers to explore your body.



"Got a new partner was actually fun because you and your spouse are still learning to find the preferred touch, either by you or spouse. So, there's always time to explore," he said.

However, be aware that this is a moment to recognize and study the pair so that you do not have to be disappointed if your body does not react like what you do to the couple. This may take time, and you should enjoy this stage only. In fact, Paget says no need to get rid of it altogether vibrator. You can also take him to the room, and asked the couple to help you achieve orgasm using these tools.